A 4mm stone blocked my ureter and gave me sepsis

I'm not really after advice here — I mostly just need to get this off my chest around people who get how miserable stones and hospital stays are.

All of this started on May 11th when I went to the ER with right-side flank pain. I knew pretty fast something was wrong with my kidney, since I've had my fair share of stones and kidney infections and I have PKD. They did an ultrasound and a CT scan, told me they didn't see anything, and decided to treat it like a kidney infection. I finished my antibiotics on May 22nd and thought I was in the clear.

Exactly a week later I woke up with left-side flank pain, a fever that climbed all the way to 103, and my heart pounding out of my chest. I ended up back in the ER, where another CT showed a 4mm stone blocking my left ureter that had made me severely septic. I was admitted and put on NPO starting at midnight.

The urologist came around 9:30am the next morning to talk about placing a stent that day. He also mentioned he'd read my report and that they'd actually seen the stone in my left ureter back on May 11th. I lost it, because not one person had said a word about it to me while I was there — only that they were treating an infection. I know it wouldn't have changed the outcome, but I probably would've gotten myself to the ER about 12 hours earlier, since I never would've 2nd-guessed what was happening to me.

I finally went into surgery at 9pm after being kept NPO for 21 hours, which is its own miserable, draining ordeal.

I'm drained physically and mentally. I already carry so much medical trauma from 2 past cancer diagnoses, and I just can't shake the anxiety and depression this is piling on me now. I hate the American healthcare system and how little they seem to care that they're treating real human beings. This stuff is exhausting.