New here, looking for general advice

Hi everyone, this is my first post here

I'll be honest, im not even sure i have a kidney stone or not, which is why im posting. ive never been to a doctor or hospital because im agoraphobic, and ive been in pain for many Months now, writing it off as ibs pain, the pain is mostly in my right lower quadrant but it shifts across my whole abdomin sometimes. over the past 3 weeks it's gotten sharper on my right side, but not where the apendix is, its more on the side where my love handle is (not sure of the proper term), and in that spot its firm to touch and really painful. over the last week ive also had a dull ache in my lover back, and since yesterday ive been getting sharp shooting stabing pains, like a knife or an electric shock, behind my pubic area. is any of this normal for kidney stones, especially the pubic pain, because thats what's scaring me most. I also get burning pain on the right side of my abdomin, and when im in bed trying to sleep, lying on my left side feels like the right side is getting crushed, really bad and dull. any advice would be appreciated, thanks, oh and im 46m btw,